6 Tips to Help You Cope with COVID Fatigue

“Is there such a thing as COVID fatigue? Because I’m pretty sure I’m suffering from it.” That’s the question I half-jokingly asked my friend recently. The truth is that I’ve been feeling an overwhelming lack of motivation, low energy and just exhausted lately. I’m having trouble concentrating and, I’m irritable. Was this just a case of boredom from being isolated with very little in-person interaction and no real sense of normalcy since March? Or was there something more going on.

Virus fatigue by many other name 

Well, it turns out that COVID fatigue is a thing. Actually, I discovered that it goes by many names, pandemic fatigue, virus fatigue, crisis fatigue, social distancing fatigue or lockdown fatigue. Whatever you call it, it’s all referring to the same thing, the serious mental and physical impacts of a major ongoing crisis, in this case, the Covid19 coronavirus, on individuals.

What are the signs of pandemic fatigue? 

We’re all dealing with a ton of stress and anxiety. Whether it’s worrying about returning to the workplace, trying to find a new job, whether your business will survive, how you’ll pay your rent or mortgage, worrying about your kids starting the school year or the safety of your mother in a long-term care home. To say we’re all dealing with a lot might be the biggest understatement of 2020 so far. The past seven months have felt and continue to feel like we’re in a perpetual state of anxiety and stress. 

Some of the signs of pandemic fatigue are like other forms of fatigue including, worry, the lack of motivation, helplessness and frustration. As well as disruptions in our sleep, eating, mood, and having trouble concentrating. 

We may also start relaxing and not being as careful as we once were over during the pandemic. For example, we may not vigorously clean the groceries before putting them away or disinfecting every surface in the house. Maybe we don’t maintain enough social distance when we’re meeting friends or family. It’s hard to not give hugs. We’re thinking, we’re so over this coronavirus. Over. It! Covid19 just needs to go away already (insert six eye roll emojis).  Does this inner weariness sound familiar? 

It’s normal to feel this way. As I talk to my friends, I’m relieved to learn I’m not alone, and neither are you. There are things you can do to help better cope when the days are feeling a little heavier than usual.

6 Tips for Coping with COVID Fatigue

1. Mindset Matters

First, recognize the signs. Stop and take stock of how you’re feeling. Really pay attention to this. Take a few minutes, sit down, close your eyes, inhale deeply and then exhale deeply. Do this a few times. Then write out what you’re feeling. 

Then, check your mindset. Instead of focusing on the negative thoughts and feelings about the pandemic, social distancing and having to wear face masks all the time, flip the script. Try to think more positively. Think about the benefits that have come from following safety guidelines so far and how continuing to do so will be a benefit to you, your loved ones, others and your community. 

2. Healthy Habits Count

Like having a positive mindset, making a daily habit of practicing gratitude can be helpful. Get a notebook out and for each day, write down three things you are grateful for. 

Speaking of habits, make sure that safety practices like handwashing for 20 seconds become an ingrained part of your healthy lifestyle. Some people sing the birthday song during handwashing, or you can do like Will Ferrell and sing Drop it Like it’s Hot. Do you boo!

3. Stay Connected

My cousin and I FaceTime at least once a week since the stay at home orders were in place. Before lockdown, we would send text or DM on Instagram (she’s 24, so yeah, this is how we roll). But now, we use these chats as a way of regularly checking in on each other. It’s been great for my mental health and our relationship.

Talk with your family and friends about how they’re feeling and be present in the moment with them. That means no distractions. Now more than ever, it’s so important to reach out and connect with those we love or even old friends we haven’t heard from in a while. 

Go ahead, schedule the phone calls, Skype, Zoom and FaceTime calls into your calendar and make those connections a regular part of your week.

4. Tune Out

Take the time to reduce information overwhelm from all the noise that comes at us every waking second of every day. 

That might look like limiting the amount of news consumption to 30 minutes in the morning to check the headlines and the evening news.  Also, setting a maximum limit on scrolling the infinite feeds on social media will help cut back on screen time.

This can help take the edge off any anxiety you might be experiencing even if you don’t ‘feel’ like you’re experiencing any at all.

5. Prioritize Selfcare

This is my favourite coping strategy. Making time to practice self-care is always a good return on investment. Selfcare practices don’t have to be about luxurious massages and manicures, although it could be if that’s your jam. 

Recently, during Episode 2 of The Michelle Obama Podcast, Michelle Obama said she was suffering from some form of low-grade depression that she attributed to having to deal with the coronavirus lockdowns, the protests against racial injustice and the political climate in the US.  She also talked about self-compassion, exercise and getting outside were helping her to cope. 

Self-care is about finding an activity you enjoy that you will deliberately make time to do because it allows you to nourish yourself, mentally, emotionally and physically.  Practice self-care your way. 

6. Seek Help

Having a support system in family and friends and practicing self-care are great coping strategies for dealing with chronic stress, loneliness, burnout or weariness. However, in some cases, these strategies may not be enough.

The reality is we’re dealing with a historic pandemic, the likes of which the world has never had to deal with. Then, combine this with the many major economic, health, social, political and environmental catastrophes happening across the globe and the challenges we face in our communities and our everyday lives. The emotional, mental and physical toll this can have on a person may require more than self-care strategies to deal with.

Seeking help from a licensed professional counsellor or therapist may be a necessary coping strategy and can make a world of difference in your life. Therapy can provide the right opportunity to work through the complicated thoughts and emotions and dig deeper into exploring and understanding how pandemic fatigue, chronic stress and constant change are impacting your life, your work and your relationships. Therapy can be an investment in long-term health and wellness. It’s a good investment in you, and you’re worth it. 

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5 Tips to Help You Get Ready for the Holidays During Covid19

The first sip of a pumpkin spice latte, the sweet smell of freshly baked apple pie, cozy knit sweaters and the beautiful burnt orange and bright red colours of the changing fall leaves. These are all parts of what makes fall such a great time of the year. Do you know what else makes this time of year great? The major holidays. First, there’s Thanksgiving and then Halloween, followed by the most festive of all the holidays, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwaanza, or other traditional celebrations that help mark the end of a year and a time for family, food, giving, and good cheer before we ring in the New Year.

Despite the chaos and uncertainty that’s marked our ‘new normal’ the holidays remain the few dedicated times of the year when people get to take time off work, kids have time off from school, and many of us find ourselves in a celebratory mood for weeks leading up to each holiday. It’s usually an opportunity, and excuse depending on how you look at it, to have a good time with family and friends, overindulge in delicious food and drink, and probably spend way too much money.

But the year is 2020 and it’s a year like no other. With the coronavirus pandemic still looming over the world, there is more stress and perhaps less cheer and more feelings of gloom than merry and bright. 

There are so many questions about the holidays weighing heavily on my mind and the minds of many of my family and friends lately. Is it safe to go trick or treating? What about the Christmas get-together, how’s that going to work this year? Should we start buying and mailing gifts now? Is it worth the risk of going to mom and dad’s or visiting grandpa? It’s a new, ever-changing and uncharted territory that we’re all trying to navigate the best way we can but it’s tough. Seriously, COVID19 will officially be dubbed the real Grinch that stole all the holidays in 2020. 

I know that any decisions we make on how we choose to mark holidays will be impacted by any COVID19 guidelines and restrictions that are in place in our communities at the time. There are, however, things we can do to help manage the stress and overwhelm that can come with trying to navigate the holidays in the time of COVID19. 

Here are five tips I’m adopting to help me get through the next few months and I hope will help you get ready for the upcoming holidays during COVID19.

5 Tips to Help You Get Ready for the Holidays During Covid19

#1 Make the time to practice gratitude daily

The holidays can be a busy time for many of us. But it can also be a time for us to reflect more deeply on the things for which we are most grateful. With so much sadness and fear still very much a part of our everyday lives, taking the time to identify the things that you are thankful for, all the things that are important to you, can make a difference in how you tackle the upcoming holiday season during COVID-19.

#2. Remember to check-in with yourself on how you’re feeling

Holiday stress is common and paired with the anxiety, loneliness, sadness, fear and other emotions in this current climate, it can all be overwhelming. It’s important to remember that it’s okay to be not be okay. Acknowledge these feelings as valid. Give yourself some grace and then, find a way to let it go and focus on the present moment.

#3. Accept that the holiday season may be very different this year

Planning that perfect holiday gathering or finding the perfect gifts for everyone on your list may have been something you were looking forward to this time last year. Then the world changed. Now everything is different. You might be feeling that your idea of the perfect holiday is at risk of being ruined. 

If we can accept that change is constant, then we might be able to free ourselves of the idea of what a perfect holiday ‘should be’. When we let go of expectations and accept what is, we can create the space we need to have a different yet still meaningful and memorable holiday experience.

#4. Have conversations with your family early

Talk to your family about your plans for the holiday. Together you can discuss how different things because of Covid19 and how you can, as a family, make the most out of a difficult situation.

#5. Show kindness and compassion

The holidays can be difficult for people in the best of times and the thought of having to celebrate the holidays alone, over Zoom, or not at all may result in strong emotions. Be kind and show compassion to others. We don’t know what they are going through and, everyone suffers in their way.

Final Thoughts

Cancelled celebrations and socially distanced small gatherings have become the new normal. However, due to the rapidly changing nature of coronavirus transmission, the rules and guidelines are also constantly changing. It’s important to keep this in mind as you try to ‘plan’ ahead. 

Be sure to check with your public health officials and official government websites to get the most up-to-date information and find expert guidance on steps you can take to experience the upcoming holidays safely.

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7 Tips for Organizing Your Closet Without the Pressure of Perfection

Quarantine Life – Day 5,046,000 and I finally got off the sofa, dusted the potato chip crumbs off my wrinkled t-shirt and decided I’d tackle organizing my wardrobe. I wanted to strike while the motivation of a new season was hot and the migraines were not!

I did a big purge a couple years ago so, this was one of my biannual decluttering tasks and not a massive undertaking. I thought I’d share the simple tips I use for keeping my closet “somewhat” organized. I say, “somewhat” because I’m not really the Kondo method spark joy type. Although I do like a neat and orderly space, I’m ok with a little mess. I can live with improperly folded socks and not colour coordinating my knits. Props to those of you who are so inclined, tho! My motto is to do what feels good and works for you. I personally, just need things to be kinda, sorta neat-ish and to be simple, and easy to execute. It doesn’t take much. I encourage you to do the same, let go of the stress, simplify things by taking the parts you find most helpful and trying them and disregard the things you don’t. 

That being said here are my seven tips for getting your closet neatish without worrying about getting it Pinterest perfect, because, let’s face it, for most of us our real lives don’t allow us to ever maintain that level of perfection once the photos have been snapped and shared with our followers and FB fam! 

Here are 7 Simple Tips for Organizing Your Closet

Closet Organizing Tip #1: Get Your Mindset Right

Ask yourself what the outcome you want to achieve. A Pinterest-worthy closet might be your goal, but I doubt it if you’re reading this post that encourages you to let go of perfection!

It’s great to go on Pinterest to get inspiration but watch out for those sneaky thoughts of envy and comparison. Acknowledge the thought, take a breath, then let the thought go if it does not serve you.

Remind yourself of the true purpose of this task. Accept that this is where you are right now. Get ready to get organized and feel all the good vibes that come with having a cleaner, organized, closet.

Closet Organizing Tip #2: Pace Yourself

My niece recently decided she was going to paint her living and dining room, by herself and in a day. She got it done but it took her three days and a second trip to buy more paint! She underestimated the amount of work it would take. 

Your closet might seem like a small space, but if you’re like me, and you have a lot of ‘stuff’, then organizing it might take you longer than a few hours. In that case, pace yourself by setting incremental goals, like, setting aside two hours and organizing one section as opposed to wanting to do the whole thing. 

Closet Organizing Tip #3: Seasonal Switch Up

Use the seasons as your reminder to give your closet a once-over. The beginning of spring when you’re transitioning from winter sweaters and boots to cute dresses and sandals is a perfect time.

Closet Organizing Tip #4: Dance like no one is watching

Go ahead and bump your fave tunes, you know, the songs you think you know all the lyrics too, but you really don’t but sing them anyway. Get hype and get going. 

Closet Organizing Tip #5: Divide and Conquer

If you’re like me you might find the idea of removing everything from your closet and dumping it into piles to be sorted, a bit overwhelming. Start with one section of your closet at a time. For example, I start with pants – they’re easier to sort and I can get a quick win.

Closet Organizing Tip #6: When in doubt, try it on

It can come as a shock to discover that those jeans from 1992 don’t fit anymore – how can this be? I know, I’ve been there. But it’s ok, it really is gonna be alright. Let it go and plan to buy a new pair that makes your booty look real good in 2020. 

Closet Organizing Tip #7: Get Hung Up on Hangers

Seriously, using one style of hanger does wonders for making your closet appear more organized even if things aren’t aligned and colour co-ordinated to perfection. It’s the little things that can make a big difference.

Once you’ve finished, step back, look at your work, and congratulate yourself on a job well done! Then treat yourself to some Netflix and a bag of potato chips!

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3 Steps I’m Taking to Get My Money Right in the Time of Covid19

Photo of a Happy Go Money personal finance book on a breakfast tray with a cup of coffee on a bed.

Since we are in the time of Covid19, I’ve been thinking a lot about money (and end of life planning) lately. Oddly enough, in March, at the beginning of the pandemic and up until about a month ago, I was spending, a lot. Instead of panic shopping on loading my cupboards with cans of beans and jars of pasta sauce, I bought ‘stuff’ for my apartment. 

Panic Shopping During the Pandemic 

I reasoned that my desire to spruce up my living space was because I would be spending way more hours in the space than I had done, well, in forever. So, there I went, new skillet, new toilet brush, new shower curtain liners, new fake plant, and on and on. Then, like many people, I need to make my workspace cute. I already had a desk, but I wanted to add more “personality,” so I bought some frames and had photos printed, a new desk lamp – purely for aesthetics because I honestly get plenty of natural light and have a large light above my head. 

I was in spend mode, with full justifications for all of it! I had a long list of other things that I “needed”. At the time, I didn’t recognize that my need to buy a bunch of stuff was probably more about a need to be in control of ‘something’ during a time of such intense uncertainty and fear. I was not alone in this. I mean seriously, I couldn’t even find a nail file or bedroom curtains to buy for months!

Overspending Reality Check

Two things happened to give me an overspending reality check. The first was my friend, who happens to be a lawyer, asked me if I had a Will. It wasn’t the first time she’d mentioned it and it wasn’t the first time I’d skirt around the issue. I didn’t want to talk about death and dying, especially during the pandemic. It was too scary a thought.

The second thing was an Instagram post that involved a question from someone who asked what they should be doing with all the money they saved during the stay at home or shelter in place orders. Wait, what?! There were people out there who managed to actually save money. Mind blowing.

The light bulb went off and I asked myself, how much did I ‘not’ save and take a closer look at where I spent my money and what goals were not being achieved because of it. Just as importantly, I had to think about the Covid19 virus and the potential of long-term health issues or possibly death.

How could I take this moment to put myself in the best position possible to deal with either of these scenarios? The answer was pretty evident, I needed to focus on putting in place better money habits pronto!

Road to Developing Better Money Habits

overhead shot of a personal finance book - Happy Go Money, and a laptop, notebook and glasses

Step 1: Seeing the Big Money Picture 

My first step was to set aside some time to finally complete a personal financial inventory / net worth statement my friend had given me ages ago – took me a few minutes to locate it. 

The inventory allowed me to gather and review banking and other important information – savings, loans, credit cards, assets, pension, life insurance etc. This exercise turned out to not be as scary or tedious as I’d originally thought. Instead it was a bit therapeutic in a way.

By taking the time to write everything down in one place and seeing a big picture view of where I stood financially, however bleak that position was, came with a sense of accomplishment and optimism. It was good to know exactly what I would be dealing with and then to develop of plan.

Step 2: Doing a Money Deep Dive

The next step was that I needed to go deeper and examine my debt and come up with a plan of attack. I turned to Melissa Leong’s Happy Go Money: Spend Smart, Save Right and Enjoy Life and re-read some of the pages I had highlighted the first time around. Such a great resource btw. She’s got a wicked sense humour and brings the kind if practical and mindful approach to personal finances that I need in my money life right now.

Here’s the thing you should know about me, when it comes to thinking about or talking about money, I always want to cover my ears with my hands and sing loudly, “La-La-La-La-La-La.” Super immature. I know. I wish I loved saving and, in the words of 50cent, love to watch my money pile up but the fact is that my aversion to talking about money and my expertise in spending it runs deep. I’m a Spender. I’m sure it’s in my DNA. It most definitely runs in the family and examining this bit of reality will require a separate post and probably several years of therapy to unpack it all.

Step 3: Getting My Mindset Right

stack of personal finance books on a night table in a bedroom

Anyhoo, I’m not a complete mess when it comes to developing healthy money habits. I’ve always been committed to educating myself on personal finances – not obsessively but I’ve read books, blogs, and articles. I’ve used apps and I’ve tried different budgeting resources over the years to try to break bad money habits I’ve inherited. 

Some of the personal finance books I’ve read in the past:

Happy Go Money: Spend Smart, Save Right & Enjoy Life (Melissa Leong)

Smart Women Finish Rich (David Bach)

Smart Cookies’ Guide to Making More Dough: How Five Young Women Got Smart, Formed a Money Group, and Took Control of Their Finances (The Smart Cookies)

The Wealthy Barber Returns (David Chilton)

You are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth (Jen Sincero)

Girl Get Your Money Straight: A Sister’s Guide to Healing Your Bank Account and Funding Your Dreams In 7 Simple Steps (Glinda Bridgforth)

It’s been a lifelong journey so far and one made up of struggles (think unemployment, underemployment, student loan debt, living in an expensive city, no family financial support and not to mention stats on race and gender and the wealth gap).

I know enough to know that my relationship with money and my money habits well, there’s a lot to unpack and blaming myself or thinking I’m a bad person for not being able to do better is unhelpful and not healthy. I prefer to put things in context, consider my background and know that other factors are at play that have influenced my mindset and behaviour when it comes to money. But I also take great comfort in knowing that, as Melissa says in Happy Go Money, “[w]herever you are in life right now, this too will change. You can look back at your choices and decide that going forward, you will choose differently.” Words to life by.

The Personal Finance Money Management Road Ahead

a small collection of personal finance books fanned out on a bed

Learning about money habits and my relationship with it is a lifelong journey and not always pleasant one, but one I’m willing to take if it means at the end of the day (read: retirement), I’ll be doing just fine. I’ve been slowly unlearning negative money habits and getting better over time at forming healthier ones. I recognize that my family history around money has played a big role too.

I also acknowledge the many setbacks throughout the years have been simply a part of life’s journey, while at the same time understanding the importance of picking myself up again and trying, each and every time. 

Cheers,

Cassandra McD.

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Wardrobe Essentials: 20 Must Have Pieces You Need In Your Closet

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I’ve been feeling a bit meh about my wardrobe for some time now. Simply uninspired and bored. Yet, I’m also being more fiscally responsible and budget more and spend less.

My goal is to shop my closet and if I do decide to purchase an item then it’s gotta make sense and be a timeless (more sustainable) piece.

I wanted to start shopping my closet by going back to basics and finding the wardrobe essentials first and then take it from there. For this process I turned to my best friend, Google, and did some research to see what items of clothing should make the “wardrobe essentials list” in my own closet. Although there are lots of great options out there to choose from in terms of wardrobe must-haves lists, one of my faves is from the from Signe of the Use Less Blog.

In thinking of my own must-have wardrobe list as a woman over 40, I want to build one based on my previous experience as a personal shopper and styling my work colleagues. These are items I feel are essential foundation pieces to have in your wardrobe and that work for those of us in an older demographic but are still pretty timeless that they work for younger women as well.

black woman wearing dark wash blue skinny jeans, black heels, a black blazer and white t-shirt

A Word on Investment Pieces & Trends

As an aside, I don’t own “investment” designer pieces so you’ll not find LV wallets or Gucci belts here (I do own a pair Chanel sunglasses that are about 12 years old). With that said, the low budget clothes I’ve bought have still lasted for years because I tend to shop for classics while avoiding fades. As I’m aging, I’m thinking more mindfully about how I shop and looking at now incorporating more sustainable clothing into my wardrobe overtime.

Also, I don’t own too many fashion trends. I bought a really puffy sleeved stripped shirt last year that I wore once, it not only had puffy sleeves shoulders but it buttoned-up in the back so putting it on was not fun. I’ve since donated because I really don’t know what was thinking when I bought that (I probably wasn’t really thinking too much!)

Each season, however, I do like to add a new piece to keep my wardrobe current. For example, I might update my fall wardrobe with a new sweater or add a floral print dress for spring.

I love shoes but boy do I hate the pain

Who was it that said beauty if painful? They weren’t kidding! Shoes. This is where I get a failing grade in the style department. Please don’t judge me! lol I love pretty shoes, I do, I even went to see the Manolo Blahnik exhibit in Toronto when it was here! I do have a deep appreciation for the craftsmanship, design and beauty of footwear. But, the thing is, I like them on display in the store store (and in magazines and museums), and not necessarily on my feet.

I’ll try on shoes and think, oh these are cute and feel comfy and then end up giving them to my niece or donating them to charity because eventually I find out they are uncomfortable. Flat feet and bunions are the likely culprit and lower back pain that can come with wearing heels. Not to be discouraged I’ve simple opted for a decent pair of black flats, a menswear inspired pair of lace-ups and white or neutral sneakers for my go-to footwear.

It may not be as adventurous or stylish but these kinds of options can work for most outfits and have you looking effortless stylish while being super comfortable an on trend.

My Pick for Top 20 Items to Have in Your Wardrobe

Here is my list of 20 curated items to every woman should have in their closet as a foundation for their Wardrobe Essentials along with a bonus list of accessories and what I think is important for my Canadian sisters who have to deal with the harsh winters but still want to look cute.

1. White t-shirt

2. Striped tee

3. Black pants

4. Black dress

5. Wrap dress

6. Knee-length skirt

7. Denim in a dark wash

8. Blouse

9. White Button-down skirt

10. Denim button-down skirt

11. Trench Coat

12. Denim Jacket

13. Blazer

14. Cardigan

15. Knit sweater

16. Ankle boots

17. Pumps

18. Flats

19. Rain boots

20. Sneakers

A Few Additional Essential Wardrobe Items to consider include:

Must have Accessories: Tote, Scarf, Sunglasses and Watch.

Of course if you live in a place like Canada, you need to add the following essential items to your wardrobe:

A super warm winter coats – winter coats have come a long way in warmth and style. Invest in one that’s functional, fits well, is a classic style that’s made to last you years.

A great pair boots that can handle at least -25C temps. I will never understand winter boots with heels. I just don’t get it but to each their stylish own!

Gloves – ones that can keep your hands from freezing but still look stylish (I have more than one pair because like umbrellas, you tend to lose them on buses, trains and in restaurants)

Warm chunky knit sweater in black, grey, or beige that you can pair with anything

That’s it! if you have these items in your closet you should be able to have a versatile enough basic wardrobe to be able to keep the outfit combos coming for quite some time. Of course, adding a new item each season also helps to keep you on trend and looking current. While, making sure to replace faded, washed out, stained items as needed to keep you looking chic and on point, all the time.

Black woman wearing white blazer an cropped denim

Cheers,

Cassandra McD.

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Wondering How to Wear All This Summer? Try These 5 Easy Looks

Summertime is my time to shine and one of the ways I love getting my summer vibes on is by wearing a lot of white.

Now, I know there are some people who will say they can’t possibly wear white. Their too pale and it will look horrible on them. To that I say, under a shade that’s most flattering to you and maybe incorporate a hint of color closer to your neck – maybe a printed satin scarf, to warm up your face. My philosophy is, don’t be afraid of white, embrace the chic. Also walk with a stain removing because there will enviably be some spillage (coffee, tea, ink marks, subway or car grease). Accept it and rock on!

I’ve put together five of my fave summer all white looks below. I’ve shopped my closet with pieces ranging from $24 – $89 and that I’ve owned for years. I’m all for low budget buying but spending on pieces that are classic cut and that I know I can wear for years (despite it costing less). One new piece is a replacement pair of white linen trousers I bought on sale at Banana Republic (at 50% off). I think owning a pair of wide-legged trousers or denim is a must-have Item for a diverse wardrobe and probably a topic for another post!

So, here we go! My 5 all white outfits for the summer that I hope will inspire you to try it out for yourself!

1. White Denim Skirt

We all know that the blue denim skirt is a must-have summer outfit staple but what about adding a white denim skirt to your wardrobe. A denim skirt in a pencil-skirt is ideal wear-to-work look or you can throw on a white tank top and a pair of slides with a wide belt and head to weekend brunch! Love this skirt (shopping my closet – this skirt is about 3 years old from Joe Fresh and cost about $29 (the top is Joe Fresh too). I wear it ever summer).

2. The White Shorts

I love the length of a walking short. It’s short and sexy. You can dress this up with a white blazer and heels or throw on a t-shirt and sneakers. It’s an easy, go-to all white summer look.

3. The White Trouser

Love this look for the casual ease of the wide-legged trouser. It makes you feel like you should be vacationing in a European city, looking cool, sophisticated and chic. Just try not to spill the espresso.

4. The LWD – Little White Dress

Nothing screams summertime ready like a little white summer dress. The white dress is a classic must-have in your summer wardrobe. You can opt for short, mid-length or a long boho-chic style depending on your personal style.

5. White Denim Jeans

And finally, if you love your skinny jeans, invest in a white pair that can take you from summer into fall (yes, it looks fantastic with a navy blazer, cognac boots, and stripped button-down shirt) and if you are one of the brave ones that will rock white denim in winter then you’re covered!

Hope these practical, real life low-key all white looks give you some outfit inspirations this summer!

Cheers,

Cassandra

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Know Someone Who Suffers From Migraines? Read This

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Why Migraines & Headaches are Big Deal

If I were a superhero, say, Spiderman (migraine spidey senses being my superpower), then migraine headaches would be my supervillain – the Green Goblin, whose sole purpose is to torment me by threatening to sabotage my world and take me out! (insert maniacal laughter).

Sadly, I’m no superhero but, having to regularly suffer from migraine headaches can feel like an epic battle for over 2.7 million Canadians and mostly for women. Chances are you know someone who suffers from migraine headaches.

June is National Migraine and Headache Awareness Month and I want to some facts about migraines. My hope is that this information will deepen your understanding of migraines and what your family members, friends or co-workers might be experiencing so the conversations you have will come from a place of compassion and empathy and informed awareness.

Migraine Headaches: Facts & Triggers 

Visual of a quote about migraines to convey the seriousness of migraines on individuals.

Before I found a course of pain management treatment that worked for me, my migraines lasted for over 14 hours. I couldn’t work, couldn’t talk to anyone I couldn’t do anything but try to be present with the pain. I would be in tears, curled up in fetal position on the bathroom floor (the darkest place in my apartment), cellphone in hand and wondering if I should call 911 for help. These episodes were, in a word, brutal. 

Migraines are more than a typical headache. They are debilitating in intensity, severity and duration. Episodic migraines happen less than 15 days each month but, sometimes they can last for three days. Chronic migraines, on the other hand, involve 15 or more days of headaches per month or eight or more headaches with migraine features each month for three or more months.

Migraine Common Symptoms & Triggers

Some common migraine symptoms experienced by migraine sufferers include nausea, vomiting, hypersensitivity to light, smells and sounds.

Common triggers include:

  • Hormonal changes (periods, birth control pills, ageing)
  • Certain foods (e.g., chocolate, cheese, caffeine, alcohol)
  • Weather (changes in temperature/humidity)
  • Strong odours (e.g., perfumes, cigarette)  
  • Physical factors (e.g., poor sleep, high-intensity workouts)
  • Family history/genes 
  • Stress 

Migraines Affect Us Differently

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Suffering from migraines just straight up sucks 100% for the individual and their loved ones. Having to miss the championship game for your kid’s basketball team, a piano recital or awards ceremony because of a migraine can be painful for the parent and the child.

People who suffer from chronic and episodic migraines have experiences that are unique to them. 

Probably the one thing we may have in common is that migraines are debilitating and severely impact the quality of life for migraine sufferers, including missing school, work and events and affecting productivity and time with family and friends. 

There’s also a great deal of emotional and psychological stress that these constant life interruptions can cause. Imagine for a minute having to worry constantly about making plans for fear that you’ll only end up cancelling “again” because of a migraine or worse, attending a wedding and having to leave early because of the migraine. Seriously, how can you live your best life if you’re always in fear of having a migraine attack? It’s frustrating.

There Is No Cure for Migraines

There is no cure for migraines but there are several migraine treatment options available. 

Since one size does not fit all when it comes to preventative treatments, we have to find the pain management treatments that meet our individual needs. There are preventative measures, like migraine-specific prescription medications.

There are also alternative options such as acupuncture, massage therapy or chiropractic treatments. There are also therapeutic options like BOTOX for chronic migraines (a Health Canada approved migraine preventative treatment).

Knowledge is Power

Pain management through a course of prescription medication, working with healthcare providers, and self-care practices allow me to take less time off work, get to spend more time with friends and family and don’t stress out as much about going on vacation. All this means less mental stress.

Don’t get me wrong I still experience debilitating days that can last for three days but not as frequently as before. I’m so grateful now for the pain-free days.

If you think your headaches might be migraines, speak to a healthcare provider to determine if that’s the case and what options are available to manage the pain.

Whether you are a migraine sufferer or know a loved one with migraines, go check out and share www.mychronicmigraine.ca It’s a helpful resource to learn more about chronic migraines and provides a simple quiz to determine whether you might be a chronic migraine sufferer and other useful information. Knowledge is power!

Cheers,

Cassandra McD.

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Do These 3 Things Before Decluttering Your Beauty Products

Sleek, clean and modern bathroom with natural wood and white and plants.

As COVID-19 self-isolation draws on and we’re entering four months of self-isolation, I’ve been finding ways to keep productive on weekends when I know the weekend brunch plans are non-existent as are visits to coffeeshops, the shops or even a few hours spent the museum or art gallery.

It’s not surprising that home decorating or home organizing are trending now since many of us are finding that we have the time to take a hard look at our living environment and maybe tackle some of the projects that we’ve never really had time for before – or made the time for.

One of the things on my quarantine to-do list is decluttering the bathroom cabinets. It’s not a big space but I’ve noticed it’s a crowded one. I’m talking about pore strips, exfoliating scrubs, serums, eye creams and hydrating masks. Then you have bottles of nail polish, cuticle creams, lipsticks and lip balms. I honestly believe I use one third of the products on a regular basis yet my cabinet shelves are lined and some is the small area around my sink

My goal for this weekend project was simple, eliminate the excess and bring more simplicity/spacious into my lifestyle (and probably on subconscious level, it’s really about mentally and physically preparing myself for all the anti-aging products I’ll need because I don’t plan on aging gracefully, I’m putting up a fight of the knock-down-drag-out variety).

What makes this a great weekend project?

  • It’s a small space so it will not be overwhelming and the time commitment should not be all-consuming and can be done in a couple of hours (minimal sweat equity involved in this project)
  • you’re likely to experience as big sense of accomplishment once you’re done (check-off that box on your to-do list!)
  • you’ll quickly create a spaciousness you didn’t realize you had in your bathroom and that is a pretty good feeling.

#1: Do ask yourself this one question

Overhead shot/ flatlay of a variety of makeup products - eyeshadow palettes, nail polish, creams in small jars and an assortment of makeup brushes

Do I really need ‘all” of this stuff?

Chances are, your answer will be “no” if you’re keeping it real with yo’self. I know, we love our beauty and skincare products. They look beautiful and smell divine plus they promise to give me that JLo glow and keep my skin flawless like Bey, and ageless like Naomi Campbell. But that doesn’t necessarily mean you need every lotion, potion and serum currently lining your bathroom shelves.

Yet, if you think about it, you can be selective and happier if you keep the limited real estate of your shelves reserved for nothing but the ‘All Stars’, those core products that are your gold standard and make you feel really good when you use them.

If you feel you need ‘all’ of it, then you can still read on. You never know, even doing the next two activities might provide you with a different perspective and allow you to let go of a few things.

#2: Do sort the products

The Keepers

These are the gold standard products – the keepers. You know, the products that you replace the minute you notice it’s running low. These are the products you swear by and tell your girlfriends about.

These can also include sample products that you’ve been meaning to try but haven’t yet gotten around to, well, because, life. You still are curious about these products and you feel a little excitement about finally making the time to use them while in self-isolation.

The ‘Say Goodbye’ Crew

Makeup brushes and beauty products in clear organizer container on a bathroom counter

Seriously, when was the last time you used that bottle of serum you just found at the back of the cabinet hidden behind the tube of rash cream. You know the items that you thought you’d really liked but used it a couple times only to get distracted by something newer and shiner, that came highly recommended by one of your fave YouTubers and forgot about. We all have them.

Before you toss them out, can any of them find a new home? My niece has given me shampoo and conditioner she had when she recently decluttered her cabinets- she has a lot of hair and tries hair products constantly so she found herself with several bottles and realized that she hadn’t used many of them but a few times. I was a happy recipient because I typically go to the salon but COVID-19 put a temporary halt to that experience and I’ve had to do my hair at home.

To be clear, I’m not talking about giving used make-up products or any products that you could have contaminated with your hands to anyone. That’s just unsanitary even before Corona but even now, we need to be even more careful about what we are sharing and how we share it (for example, bottles of perfumes, shampoos or lotions might be worth considering).

# 3: Do check the expiry date

It will surprise you at how many products have expired without you realizing it. So even with the “Keepers” check the expiry date because beauty products expire and go bad – those natural products can expire faster than other products.

Also, using long expired beauty products is gross and cause skin irritation that you probably want to avoid like acne/break-outs or infections. Gross.

Now that you’ve gone through those steps you can go head and begin the process of making your bathroom shelves things of aligned, colour-code, beauty. Celebrate you freshly decluttered space by treating yourself to that lipstick you’ve had your eye on forever. Kidding! maybe enjoy the space for a bit longer before you bring in any new products always being mindful of creating more clutter.

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Cheers,

Cassandra

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Book List: 7 Awesome Fiction Books by Black Authors You Should Read This Summer

Almost everyday for the past few weeks, I’ve woken up with a sense of dread wonder, what, if any, events unfolded overnight related to the global Black Lives Matter movement and calls for justice, equality and an end to systemic racism in all its forms. Did something happen that would create yet another dramatic shift but this time in a horrible way, causing things to slip so far backwards in time that it will be hell to put the pieces back together again and move forward? Or, will there be some awesome news that will leave me filled with hope? or will things be relatively quiet but still moving steadily forward? I just didn’t know and this was stressful.

To be expected, I’ve found myself, like many of you guys, having to work that much harder to cope and to find moments of optimism and lightness throughout out days. Seeking out little moments of gratitude and joy while still leaving the space to just feel all the feelings.

Little things like seeing all the wonderful booklist of Black authors that’s being shared all over social media along with an encouragement to buy these books from Black-owned bookshops and independent bookstores. This makes me happy and super excited about my reading list!

And since sharing is caring, I’m sharing with you guys seven fiction books that I’ve read and enjoyed, if you’re looking for fiction reads this summer. A few are newer while others are classics. 

One caveat, although reading is my fave pastime and I can easily lose hours caught up in a good book, I don’t pretend to be a book critic, reviewer or bibliophile. I read for the pleasure it brings me. I love the way a well told story can make me feel, whether it stirs my soul by being so beautifully written that I’m left in awe (read anything by Toni Morrison!), or the characters are so vivid they jump off the page and are unforgettable. I simply love a book that makes me feel something long after I put it down – no dissecting or deep analysis needed. But if you fancy that kind of thang, then, yes, all of the books listed below, in my opinion – and Oprah’s – are book club, deep discussion, second read worthy novels.

With that, here are my picks for 7 awesome books by Black author that you should add to your reading list!

1. Girl, Woman Other by Bernardine Evaristo (2019)

Bernardine Evaristo’s Girl, Woman, Other, about the interconnected lives of 12 black characters in the UK over several decades, shared the Booker Prize win in 2019 with Margaret Atwood’s Testaments. Evaristo also became the first Black British woman to by number one on the UK paperback fiction chart. She speaks about this here

2. The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas (2017)

Angie Thomas’s The Hate U Give is a young adult fiction novel that was adapted into a movie in 2018. I haven’t seen the movie yet but enjoyed this book a lot – appreciated the old R&B music references! The issues raised in the book are also very relevant now as in 2017 when the novel was published in terms of Black Lives Matter movement and the hard and necessary conversations about the black experience and racism that we are having today.

3. The Water Dancer by Ta-Nehisi Coates (2019)

Ta-Nehisi Coates’ debut novel The Water Dancer was one of Oprah’s Book Club reads. The Water Dancer is set in the time of slavery (deep South and freedom in the North) but with a twist, the protagonist possess mysterious powers he must seek to understand and draw upon to fight for freedom not only for himself but for others.

At the time of writing this, Ta-Nehisi Coates’ non-fiction work Between the World and Me is currently topping the New York Times best seller list.

4. Half Blood Blues by Esi Edugyan (2011) (Canadian)

Esi Edugyan’s Half-Blood Blues is a Giller Prize winner set in pre-war Berlin and Paris and follows two aging jazz musicians in pre-war Berlin who return to Paris in search of their friend and trumpeter who was arrested during the Nazi occupation of France. 

This novel was her debut and won or was nominated for every literary prize in Canada and celebrated internationally when it debuted in 2011 even Oprah called it one of the best books of the year and it was praised by the New York Times. 

5. The Bluest Eyes by Toni Morrison (1970)

I absolutely love Toni Morrison, well who doesn’t? She’s just, wow! She’s also both a Pulitzer and Nobel Prize winner.

The Bluest Eye, Toni Morrison’s debut novel turned 50 this year. It’s about a young, black girl praying for blue eyes so she could be beautiful when her life is anything but. I hesitate in listing this one because it’s a tough one to get through – in terms of gut- wrenching sadness. But it’s a classic that’s still powerful and relevant 50 years on.

6. Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston (1937)

Zora Neale Hurston’s Their Eyes Were Watching God is a classic and set in Harlem Renaissance of the1920s.

7. I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou (1969)

Now I know this is not fiction but a memoir but I felt to compelled to include it. I know Why the Caged Bird Sings was Dr. Maya Angelou’s debut novel and was published in 1969. It’s the first of a series of seven books and has become a classic. 

If you’re really want to get to goods on book recommendations, visit Well Read Black Girl because she knows what she’s talking about! 

If you’re support Black authors, also try to support small, independent bookstores, like A Different Booklist in Toronto, if you can. It will make a difference.

Happy Reading!

Cassandra

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5 Simple Tips To Help Get Your Closet Organized (so you can get you back to Netflix and chips sooner)

Rolling rack of stylish, minimalist wardrobe pieces and a trendy pale purple broad-rimmed felt had

Self-isolation Day 5,046 and I finally got off the sofa, dusted the potato chip crumbs off my wrinkled t-shirt and decided I’d tackle organizing my wardrobe. Plus, I wanted to strike while the motivation was hot and the migraines were not.  

I did a big purge a couple years ago so, this was one of my biannual decluttering tasks and not a massive undertaking. Thank goodness for that!

I thought I’d share the simple tips I use for keeping my closet “somewhat” organized. I say, “somewhat” because I’m not really the Kondo method spark joy type, don’t have that kinda mindset or patience. If you want that level of organization, then check her book and YouTube for some inspiration. I personally just need things to be kinda, sorta neat-ish and I’m good to go…back to binge watching some Netflix.

Metal rolling rack of black and white minimalist clothing hanging neatly on wooden hangers

Here are 5 tips to get your closet looking neat:

  1. Seasonal Switch Up! Use the seasons as your reminder to give your closet a once-over. The beginning of spring when you’re transitioning from winter sweaters and boots to cute dresses and sandals is a perfect time.
  1. Drop it low, to the flo’! Go ahead and pump up the jams. Sing to your fave chart toppers, the ones you think you know all the lyrics too but you really don’t and sing them out loud like you know them anyways? Get hype and get going!
  1. Divide and Conquor! If you’re like me you might find the idea of removing everything from your closet and dumping it into piles to be sort, a bit overwhelming. Start with one section of your closet at a time. For example, I start with pants – they are easier to sort and I can get a quick win. Then I move on to dresses and work your way through in a way that’s most comfortable and that I know I can manage without the overwhelm.
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  1. When in doubt, try it on! It can comes as a shock to discover that those jeans from 1992 don’t fit anymore – how can this be? I know, I’ve been there. But it’s ok, it really is gonna be alright. Let it go and plan to buy a new pair that makes your booty look real good in 2020. 
  1. Hanger consistency is key. Seriously, using one style of hangers does wonders for making your closet look organized even if things aren’t aligned and colour co-ordinated to perfection. It’s the little things that can make a big difference.

Bonus tip: #PaceYourself – I took my time, no pressure at all, and did my organizing in sections over a weekend. So, no need to feel any pressure to get it done, right now, all in one go. Pace yourself, take a break, have a snack, and get back to it. But, if you’re in the groove and hit a stride, by all means, keep at it. Sometimes you’ve gotta grab hold of that momentum and ride the wave while you can. Netflix will be there when you’re done.

It felt good when I was done, so good in fact that I was guilt-free when I went back to the sofa with my bag of chips.  

Cheers,

Cassandra McD.

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